Accept the New: My 2024 Commandments
“Another day, another chance.”
Another year in the history books. 365 days down, and just like that the clock starts back at one. For me, 2023 year was a journey of peaks and valleys, uncomfortable situations, tough conversations, and inevitable growth. I felt feels I never felt, encountered situations I’d never experienced, and lost people I thought would always be there. It was a tumultous time to say the least, but it was one of my most transformative years yet. Through all the pain, shame, and misalignment I cracked a new layer of myself open. So with that in mind, here are my commandments for 2024, and more.
Time waits for no one.
Life is always happening. As we age, we lose people. Family, friends, and mentors transition out of our lives, and we’re left to pick up the pieces. In the past three. years, I’ve lost six family members around the holiday season. It’s a bitter reminder of just how fleeting life is, and guess what? It goes on. The best thing you can do to honor the gift of life is to appreciate it, and the best way to honor your ancestors is to live your life to the fullest. Every day you wake up, know that someone didn’t, and there is gratitude to be found in that. Even on your worst day, make it count, because you are still here for a reason.
“Every 12 months you live, another year you ball.”
Minimize regret to lessen grief.
Loss will happen to all of us, and it will hurt. There is no way around it, but as unpleasant as these emotions are, they are a part of the human experience. But what worsens grief is regret. Regret over the things we said or didn’t say, or what we did or didn’t do. We regret the opportunities we missed, and the chances we didn’t take. Those losses can feel just as painful as losing a loved one, but you can minimize those feelings by showing up fully in the present. When we ruminate over the past, and worry about the future, we’re missing the chance to create our own destiny. Magic is made in the moment. I’ve grieved so many people, places, and things, and found myself wishing I would’ve had the courage to do and pursue what was calling to me, but I can’t get that time back. What I can do is take the lessons and move forward with them. I can spend my time like currency, appreciate the people in my life, pursue my passions, and listen to my intuition.
“Stop caring, start sharing.”
Everything lost will be replaced.
Though the pain or regret is very real, what also holds true is that there is always a new opportunity coming. We live in an abundant world, and what’s lost will always be replaced. with something better suited for us wether it’s for a season, reason, or lifetime. Looking back I have never lost anything that wasn’t replaced with something better. Spirit has a sort of algorithm, and it knows what you need, and when you need it. Sometimes people are meant to trigger you in the worst ways for a bigger purpose. Know what left was no longer serving you, and that when one door closes another door opens.
“Boys are like busses, miss one, next 15 one coming”
You can’T RUIN what’s meant for you.
As an over-thinker, I’ve felt like I’ve sabotaged more than a few things in my life. I spent so much time worried I said the wrong thing, did the wrong thing, came off too strong, or didn’t come off strong enough. Whatever the case may be, I’ve spent significant time mourning things I thought I ruined. While we may sabotage ourselves, and manifest painful lessons, whats even more true is that you can’t ruin anything that’s for you. It will happen for you when it’s time to, and the right people, places, and things will stick, with no effort. Let go, and know you’ll always have what you need.
“Rejection is protection and redirection”
Don’t chase, attract.
As a first born daughter, four-house Leo, I have a natural inclination to lead, and I don’t mind control. But what I learned at this big age, is you truly can’t control anything outside of yourself. You have to let people operate in their own autonomy. Everyone gets to make their own decisions. A huge part of this lesson was learning to attract, and not to chase. You should always show up in integrity, but once you’ve done that, relax and trust the process. Chasing things only makes them run from you. Learn to be ok with letting the chips fall where they may, giving things space, and letting life evolve. It’s easier said than done, but when you attract, you know that everything coming to you, came on it’s own.
“Let people do what they want to do, so you can see what they’d rather do.”
As we approach another year with a new sense of optimism, it’s important to remember that life is and always will be hard. There is always going to be good with the bad, happy with the sad, and lame with the rad. It’s one epic test, but the only way you can fail, is by not participating. It’s great to have a plan, but don’t miss the moment while you’re calculating, ruminating, and debating. Life is for the living, so make a move, then make another one! Never be afraid to lose to win, and accept the new.
We are waiting for you!
Until next time,
Stay Radical!
XoXo
-DotCom